Even if you are not masturbating, using porn or cheating on your wife.
Even if you are perfectly celibate.
Even if objectification, fantasy and intrigue are pretty much at absolute zero in your life…
There is still sexual desire…
The AA 12x12 says:
“It is nowhere evident, at least in this life, that our Creator expects us fully to eliminate our instinctual drives. So far as we know, it is nowhere on the record that God has completely removed from any human being all his natural drives.”
So that natural drive is going to stay…
How do we keep it from turning from desire to obsession?
Gandhi has a thought:
“I found that complete control of the palate made the observance of the vow of chastity very easy.”
SLAA also has a positive suggestion:
“Some of us took up jogging, or other exercises that required greater physical effort. These helped to provide a physical sensation of tiredness which could fill the void left by the absence of sexual release, or even replace it.”
So, they say complete control of my food and greater physical exercise, both help.